I wish I had a dollar for every time a male friend has told me that if a guy is being nice to me there’s a very slim chance he’s only looking for friendship. I understand that may be true but I wish men would understand that it’s not the same for us women, particularly us friendly and polite women.
Personally, I’m friendly to everyone. It’s not because I’m interested in every guy I come across. It’s simply because I’m a polite and friendly person. If you smile at me I’m going to smile back. If you make a joke and I find it funny I’m going to laugh. It doesn’t mean you’re going to get me in the sack. I’m just being courteous.
Another thing I wish men understood is then when a woman turns you down gently she probably isn’t playing hard to get. She’s probably doing just what I said, letting you down easy. As females we understand how hard it is to deal with rejection and feeling unwanted so we don’t want you to feel bad we just want to let you know we’re not interested. Plain and simple.
A no with a smile is still a no. The purpose of the smile is just to soften the blow of rejection. Don’t try to change her mind. Don’t ignore what she’s telling you and continue to chase her anyway. Even if she was just playing hard to get, is that what you really want? Do you really want a girl who plays games? When a real woman like’s a man she’ll say so and she’ll act like it. Period.
Basically the message I’m trying to get across here is that if a woman say she isn’t interested, even if she’s being nice about it, believe her. She’s probably telling the truth. In the words of Greg Behrendt…SHE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. Well he didn’t exactly say that but you get my point.